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Originally posted by Imperator Fyron:

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Fyron, I dont mean any disrespect but from a independant viewing, you do come across as an angry young man with an axe to grind.

Thats about as far from the truth as you can get.

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God, I hope I am not going where angels fear to tread.

Fyron, you may be missing the point.

It was suggested that "you do come across as an angry young man with an axe to grind."

Whether it is actually true or not, to this person (and possibly others), you may be be giving this impression.

To reject it with "Thats about as far from the truth as you can get. ", does not dismiss the feelings people have about the issue.

Assuming the statement "you do come across as an angry young man with an axe to grind." is an open and honest statement of what the person is feeling/thinking, a more appropriate response for a person who is genuinely searching for the truth is to ask, "What am I doing to give this impression."

It reminds me of a very bad joke played on immigrants who cannot speak English.

The jokester tells the immigrant that if he wants to be liked, he should respond to any question with "You are an *******."

Later, when the immigrant does say this to someone, the recipient of this statement can say "You are being very rude."

The immigrant could say, "That is not true."

And from the immigrants perspective, it certainly is not true.

But true or not, the immigrant is still doing something which gives the impression that he is being rude.