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Originally posted by Taera:
theoretically it is possible to get them Online... we have mutual friends who have internet. and also the phone, yes. but... i dont know. for some reason i dont... well, dont know. personally id prefer a face-to-face talk. it.... somehow feels wrong to call someone simply to complain about my troubles.

Taera, it is the rare individual who goes through life without a crisis of some sort. Some of us have many crisises.

When I had my first one I felt the same way and I have regreted it.

My friends were very supportive but being somewhat independant, I felt I was a burden to them. Later, I learned I wasn't and they wished that I hadn't withdrawn.

A real friend will be there for a friend. Only he knows when it becomes a burden for him. So, if it does happen, let him be the one to tell you that it has become too much for him to handle.

If you are still troubled about this, then be upfront about it. Tell him/her that you fear you may become a burden and when that happens you want to be told. Let them decide on whether it has become a burden for them.

Most people feel good when someone approaches them for an ear.

The major exception may be if they are stressed out themselves about something. Two things can happen then. They tell you it is a bad time and they have little resources available to explore your situation. Or you both really connect and share your difficulties with each other.