Ok, I have decided for myself, the games I am in are enough. Today I got up, was drinking some coffee and opened a turn that I got (a game I took over for someone) and was looking at it, and saw this one empire in a system that I didn't think he should be there, then saw that I had a T & R treaty with him, and was saying to myself "how the hell did I get a treaty with THAT guy, I was planning on killing him off" then realize that I was CONFUSING 2 different games, though that player was in both games with the same race.
So...I answered my own question, in my own way. Either that, or don't open a turn when I first wake up
