Congrats on loosing your virginity
Although all your suggestions would be nice to have for SEV, just stick with PBW a little longer and you will see these are not major issues
Most games does a turn a day (or every other day), and with a decent connection Receiving/Sending turns is fast enough, and with a good unzipper its only a few cliks to get the game launced. You could also use the RTC to save a few more clicks when all players are Online at the same time.
Anyway, when will we see you in KOTH ? Always good with some fresh meat