[AMF]

Ok, guys, come on, all this talk about how "girls always like the bad guys" ...let's think about all this as an analogy...

How many times have you wanted to "go out" or "sleep with" a REALLY hot woman? All the time right? Well, given my "vast" years of experience, the REALLY hot ones are also usually the one's who are NOT GOOD for you. They've got some manner of wacko-ness that is likely derived from they're being REALLY hot. Our society does that to them.

That is the analog to the men's side of things. We, as men, generally want to go out with the HOT ones because we find them hot. But by the very virtue of they're being HOT they are also BAD for us.

So, for women, the situation is the same: they want to go out with the "HOT" ones - defined in this case as the James Dean/Marlon BRando/"Dangerous" ones (because that's what our society defines male "hotness" as) but they are also the exact same one's who are bad for them.

It also is related to the idea that if one is "hot" (of either gender) they feel that they can get away with a lot more in life - which is exactly the selfish sort of behaviour that makes them bad in relationships.

Eventually, one stops desiring the "hot" ones and goes for the "sane/better" ones.

(Frankly, I think I got very lucky with the best of both worlds: my wife never thought she was hot but she is - so, she doesn't act like she is although she is...did that make sense)