[Inigo Montoya]

Norfleet,

I have found your Posts to be quite helpful in the past. You have demonstrated an excellent grasp of the game and I have appreciated your gaming wisdom.

I feel very sorry for you. Your existence must be lonely and filled with the constant perception of danger. I sense isolation, mistrust, and fear in your postings in this thread. It saddens me for your sake.

I may be a naive and trusting fool, but I have found Johan Osterman and Kristoffer O to be reliable sources of information in the past. I tend to trust folks who have proven themselves trustworthy in the past and distrust people who have proven themselves to be untrustworthy. That's my paradigm and it leads me to feel secure, happy, connected, and unafraid. Yes, occasionally I may be hurt when someone I trusted betrays me, but I survive... and I enjoy life. You may be safe and protected on your island of mistrust and persectory delusion, but at what cost? Your paradigm of "If they can hurt me, they will hurt me" stems from a sense that you are too fragile to bear the hurt.

Rather than having the ultimate defenses and being completely "safe," why not strive to be resilient enough that you would allow yourself to take reasonable risks? Allow yourself to be vulnerable if the benefits outweigh the risk. For example, I might find someone attractive and want to approach them, but I fear they might reject me. With your worldview, I never introduce myself. If I open myself to that person, I could get hurt or betrayed. Much better to stay where I am, safe and alone... I urge your to instead embrace life and take reasonable, calculated risks. You may get hurt, get your heart broken or even lose some privacy from time to time, but the rewards far outweigh risks.

I hope you can hear and understand the wisdom I try to give you.

With Great Respect,

Inigo