[Roanon]

I don't think that is exactly the point, although some truth may be in it especially in this extreme dislike of any sudden change of in-game politics.
I can very well separate in-game diplomacy and outside of the game, and have no problems to change the attitude of my rulers from game to game even when dealing with the same players. I still to not enjoy the diplomatic part. It is just no fun for me - a matter of personal taste. Although I seem to have a higher tolerance level for this than Slynky, and do not take it that serious if someone does the inevitable step to stab in a game where there can only be one. After all, it's only a game, although it still hurts if you see an empire crumble and fall that has costed you a lot of time and effort to build up.