[President_Elect_Shang]

Well I can’t say that I have ever been in that spot myself but my advice is this:

If you are true friends than letting her know how you feel will not hurt the friendship. If she does not feel the same about you it will at least make her feel good to know the truth. I know that sounds strange but after 10 years with this chick of mine the one thing I have learned for certain is that they do not think like us men, if she feels the same way than you both will be happier for it.

Now here is the part where I do have experience:

I don’t believe in love at first sight. I am not saying it isn’t out there, just that I have never felt it. I have only meet two ladies I wanted to marry and one of those I did, I never felt “love at first sight” for either of them but I did feel “something” inside that told me “I would like to spend my life with her”. So what is my point you ask? My point is that after 12 years if you do not have this feeling than I would think you are actually just feeling the love of a long and dear friendship. Making a move to seek something deeper might even work for a year or more but it will probably just end in hurt. I don’t think you should ask her for something more than what you have, but you should at least respect her enough to tell her the truth so she can decide what she wants.

I hope that is not too confusing.