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sachmo said:
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My experience has been that if I try to tell a woman how I feel, I either end up screwing it up and looking like a psycho, or sounding like an idiot. I feel that in some instances, if I had just started with something low pressure like, "I want to go out with you" then the object of my affections would have an easy time of just saying yes or no, with no hard feelings. If I sat down and composed a love poem to her, and then asked her out at the end (like I've done), they usually run away screaming.
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Yes, I've seen this happen from several perspectives before (from my own effort, to hearing about it happening to someone else from the girl herself), about six times that I can think of. The very best reaction to honest disclosure of strong feelings I've seen is polite, "sorry, no", and the worst was savage, "I hate you!!! Leave me alone!!! etc. etc." Success rate 0 for 6 tries. However it seems you _can_ say they made a great impression, and that can work well. You just can't let on that you already have strong feelings, because girls tend not to understand that, and not to want it until they've been going out with the guy for a while.