While the game runs in realtime, it is fully intended that you will stop and start the clock during gameplay. You can do all of the things you do with the clock ON while the clock is paused.
So, if things get hectic, just pause the game and give the orders you need to.
I don't like RTS's that much either
BTW, if you are looking for other players, there is a very active forum at this address:
http://www.strategyzoneonline.com/fo...splay.php?f=20