[Suicide Junkie]

Ah, but see?
It IS turn based!

You can tell your ships to move hither and yonder, and chase this or that, and drop troops and load fighters.
They execute the orders simultaneously.

And you give these guys their combat orders ahead of time in the form of strategies.

Personally, I love playing tactical combat and wincing as my ships take fire and trying to manoeuver them just so to protect the damaged ones and get everybody out alive.
But playing big games with lots of stuff is great too. And by creating your own strategies you can really make the ships do some surprisingly effective things.

Tactical combat just dosen't work in non hotseat multiplayer. Because you're not there to play it!


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As for the map orders, you have better control in simultaneous... you can still do almost everything, and you can even cancel orders if you think better of it.