[Saxon]

The situation is more muddy when both sides are presented, but it is good that you have. If I may, I would like to make a couple of points.

One, drop the role playing as soon as there is a real argument that is moving beyond the game. Reduce the potential for confusion and get rid of potentially inflammatory language. Tied to this, check if you both share a common language that you can discuss in.

Two, when trying to fix a situation like this, focus on the deal. Don’t try to figure out what the other guy is thinking or why he is doing it. That strategic thinking is fine when negotiating, but once you are trying to resolve this sort of conflict, focus on the actual deal and the actual words.

Three, no offense, but both sides should have done better at communicating. One should have accepted the offer, while the other should have followed up for a response. The deal was obviously in both sides’ interest at the time, so they both should have “sealed the deal.” Given the importance of NAP to most people, the minute it will take to write a message is very acceptable. You spend more time each turn figuring out how to spend your gold and gems, so there is no excuse for not confirming a critical strategic point. The symbolic shaking of hands needed to take place and would have avoided all of this.

As such, no one is covered in glory in this exchange and we can all learn from it. You would do well to consider apologizing to each other and asking if you can still be friends. Sort something out in the game for a few turns and then have fun trying to killing each other. There can only be one, and all NAP will end one day.

You will note I am not giving a final opinion on the NAP. This won't be resolved by one side being right or the other wrong. You two need to talk this over.