[Saxon]

The nature of the internet leads to a couple of problems, which we all need to be cognizant of while writing. First, we are almost all role playing, all the time, to a certain extent. Why do I post as Saxon instead of Dave? Why make up a false name and then post under it? I am role playing. I might be unaware of the fact, but that does not change it. If I compound that by taking on another role in a game, I am moving another step away from my true self and another step into fiction.

Throw in a dispute and mix in two layers of unclear identity and the situation is more prone to problems. The deeper you go into fiction, the farther you are from facts. If you really want to solve a dispute, stop role playing. If you are not that worried about the dispute, keep role playing and accept the cost.

Another thing about the internet is that there is no body language or tone of voice. In real life, you use those things when you want to say something you suspect will not be received well or thought of as uncouth. When posting, you have to do something else, like put a smiley or say things like “no offense.” These methods are the social grease that keep us from fighting, in real life or on the more civilized forums. They don’t happen so much in the school playground or less civilized forums, so they dissolve into wresting matches and flame wars. It is a choice. Goofy sounding posts or flame wars.

Zenphos, I won’t start with “no offense” this time, since you would like it straight.

You have asked for an adjudication, but said you do not want to be judged. The root of the word adjudication is judgment, so you can not have one without the other. When you put yourself out on the boards asking for opinions, expect to get them and expect you won’t like them all. Also, don’t complain that I have judged you without all the facts. You have presented the facts and provided a fair opportunity for your opponent to present the facts. I just worked with what you two gave me.

I agree with you, technically, there was no NAP. However, that you feel the need to clear your good name is because your actions were less than ideal. I am not surprised your opponent is complaining about your behavior and won’t be surprised if other players do not trust you or want to play with you in the future. I also suspect he is going to get more support and sympathy than either you or me.

As for my sanctimoniousness, you are right again. I often am. However, I wager that while some players will see me as a pain in the butt, they will trust my NAP and negotiations.