I used to have that problem. I have mostly solved it by doing this:
As soon as I see my wife when I come home (or she comes home - whoever gets there Last), I sit down and give her at least 30 minutes of time where I just sit and listen about her day and issues. Not talk or comment but just listen. Oh, every now and then I might say something like "Oh, that must have been terrible!" or something like that...
However, that little bit of time I devote to her sure makes those red-eye sessions on SEIV far more acceptable (and not just tolerable) to her. Seems to be a pretty good deal for me too - 1/2 hour of listening for 4-6 hours (or more) of SE time!!!