[13lackGu4rd]

I might be in the minority here but I think that the option to kick a person should be considered. no, it shouldn't be an automatic move or anything, but it shouldn't be dismissed either. in order to make the decision I think that the following information is required:
1. the identity of the player, well known, experienced, new player.
2. if new player, is he a newbie or a noob? the distinction here is very important! a newbie is just a new player who is willing to learn(such as myself for example), a noob on the other hand is a new player who thinks he already knows it all, therefore he doesn't listen to other people who try to help him, teach him, give him advise, etc.
3. why the player is doing badly, unlucky events(such as the example mentioned previously here of heroes attacking and conquering the capital), loss of pretender early on due to a mistake(blind attacking independents, lack of scouting on enemy province, getting caught off guard in the open, etc), being a jerk and scorch earthing is own territory, etc.

if you're dealing with an experienced player who is just messing around, and the other players are talking about it(which means it bothers them) than I think a kick should be considered, as he's clearly ruining the game for the other players. if it's a noob(not a newbie) than I also think a kick should be considered, as he clearly has no intention or willingness to learn and improve, so what's the point in trying...? if it's a newbie on the other hand than I think he should be given a chance to continue, while the experienced players in the game give him advise and try to teach him(even at the expense of slightly damaging themselves, being in the same game and all...). if it's only an unlucky break of events than as long as the player is willing to continue he should be allowed to do so.

this is just from the top of my head, but I think it should make my position clear on the matter. my main point is that while everybody here is only considering the well being of the player in question, I think the focus should be mainly on the game as a whole.