[Dimaz]

Hehe, in my first dom2 mp game (in Russian community, on Karan) I played standard Abysia and actually used the alchemising thing to get more sacreds. I was able to rush Jotuns this way and so had entire northwest region of the map. So Mictlan who was to the south agreed to an alliance and gave me helpful advices all the way, so I learned about blood hunt and construction (didn't use it before). With this new knowledge I was able to resist Machaka invasion (some luck was also involved, in particular in one turn I killed heavily geared Machaka Cyclops pretender with hoburg champion armed with ethereal crossbow and Al-Khazim with magic duel by sage in unguarded province with 20 sages). Finally Carrion Pangaea spammed me with GR while Man invaded Mict so we surrendered. So I managed to get to heavy lategame in my first MP with already good players, in the beginning I was making some mistakes but no one said anything about kicking, instead Dian(Mict) helped me very much to learn some mid-level things of the game, and after that I wasn't making the same mistakes again.
So, I think, first we should try to help such player, and only if he doesn't want to learn at all, other options can be considered.