[WraithLord]

Maerlande, nobody's chastising you. At least not as far as I can tell.
All rule systems have their gray areas and corner cases. There's nothing wrong with you asking. In a game such as this an astute player may guess the identity of other players based on nuances such as they way they like to expand or fight etc. So while it's true you could ask in a different way or thread I don't think this is a cause of much fuss.
I for one appreciate your agreeing to sub. Keep up the good work and if you have further questions re. victory conditions then just ask rdonj. If he ain't sure he can contact me and we'll iron it out.
In YARG2 I'll post the recommended way to ask questions in the house rules section so it'll be clearly defined.