[Jack_Trowell]

Desire, in the source material ("Sandman" from Neil Gailman) is supposed to be sort of both sexes at the same time, and able to seduce (almost) anybody, as the incarnation of the desire itself.

If you want to keep the "seduce" ability to keep in theme, maybe s/he could have a shapechange allowing him/her to change between male and female forms ?

This could allow the seduction to be useable on both male and female commanders.