@3V4JKZ2:
Do not remember, my last games were on Gandalf's server.Anyone else?

New players:
make sure you send the correct pretender, if you have created many different ones for a nation you will see something like this:

mid_vanheim_0.2h
mid_vanheim_1.2h
.....

If you are not sure which is the correct one, backup your newlords folder, delete the content and create the god again in the game. The single file showing now in the newlords folder will be your pretender. After sending it, you can restore your other builds.