[Mobhack]

Well, the simplest approac for you then is probably to go into mobhack and adjust the morale and exp of the formations to suit your taste before play. Then you will have customised orbats that suit your particular viewpoint.

If doing PBEM then you will need to exchange modded OOBs of course.

But arguing a few points here or there is really the sort of debate the medieval clergy used to have about exactly how many angels could dance on a pinhead..