[Taera]

You might try "stop at each location once" option, aviable from the Empire Options.

To view idle ships go to "Ships\Units", "orders", and then click on the "orders" list to ships to be sorted by their orders. those without any will go to the bottom. or you can just see which ones dont have orders there, too. There's also the option with show fleet/ships/units.

Hope that helps.