I would have to say the biggest problem isn't one of fairness. In my experience the better side usually wins whether attacker or defender. THe problem is that just a little advantage on either side results in a complete rout for the other side with little or no significant damage to the victor. I haven't noticed a pattern as far as who attacks first, but whoever wins the first major battle, whehter attacker or defender, goes on the attack after that and usually has an easy time of it. Not sure if that is a problem with the game or if it's just that most of us dont have all that clear an idea of tactics and whatnot.
