OT POLL: Do Nice Guys Finish Last??

[Atrocities]

Why do most women hate Sci-Fi? The lady I am so so dating now always resonds with alarm when she finds out I like Sci-Fi and that really PMO! (Pi**es Me Off)

All because she had some jerk arse boy friend who like Sci-Fi and treated her poorly does not give her the right to think I am a jerk arse because I like Sci-Fi. I mean what the hell! "If you love me you will never play that stupid game or talk to those werdo's on line again." - Ex-girlfriend comment.

Every single women I have ever dated from HS on up has hated Sci-Fi with a passion. Could it be that women who hate men who like Sci-Fi possess a sixth sense that tells them that we have the love sci-fi gene or something?

IS loving Sci-Fi a weakness? I think they feel it is. WTF is up with that. 8 of the top ten all time grossing movies are sci-fi based. So obviously there are a lot more closet sci-fi fans than we know. But honestly people look down on people who like sci-fi. Hell I am THE ONLY person in my entire family that likes sci-fi and the rest of them look at me as if I am weird. WTF is up with that? Hell my own mother read my story (Once Upon The Stars) and told me that I should keep my day job...... THIS REALLY F***ING SUCKS!

So ya, women do NOT like Sci-Fi for the most part. Although there are many who do, the norm is that 80% or so do not.

[Gryphin]

Originally posted by Renegade 13:

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Originally posted by Gryphin:
I realize your post was partly tongue in cheek cynicism and we are talking “in general”.

Haha you got me Gryphin. Total cynicism. Being the nice guy really doesn't work for me at all. Then again, I'm only 17 years old . So my experience is kind of limited. But I can't help being the "nice guy". Its who I am, and I won't change who I am.

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Truth is it does work for you. Think about it. You go home at night and feel good about yourself. You know you did not personaly contribute to making the world a worse place to live.

And think a little more. I knew somehow you were a nice guy and look where that got you. Keep in mind that I have a strong strong aVersion to teenagers, for me to somehow feel / know about you....

Pagans have a strong belief in "The Rule of Three". Anything, (good or bad) that you do will come back to you three fold.

"What goes around , comes around"

[Gryphin]

Pooh Star loves Sci Fi. It was one of the things listed in her profile at the Online dating service we met through.

X wife liked it also

[Slynky]

Originally posted by Gryphin:
Pooh Star loves Sci Fi. It was one of the things listed in her profile at the Online dating service we met through.

X wife liked it also

Funny...

Wife and I watched the 3 "Terminators" 3 weekends ago in a small Saturday marathon. Then Last weekend, we did the 4 "Alien" movies on Sat and Sun. Watched "Equilibrium" (sp?) yesterday. We're both "Firefly" nuts (own that seires, too). I could go on but you get the picture.

PS: And I spend a lot of time with her watching Lifetime movies and we own about 10 Hallmark movies (not ashamed to admit).

[Will]

Some more "youthful" input

With women, I said Last. Because I've seen it so often, that just seems to be the case. alarikf is right though, IMHO... the school I go to (USC) tends to have a lot of the more well-off, "beautiful people", and I've gotten to know several after two years there. Unfailingly, all of them have had some sort of wildly unattractive neurotic behaviour or are extremely depressed. They can hold up the image of being a "normal", "sane" person for at most two minutes in anything going beyond superficial conversation. I know most people here also have a slightly sarcastic outlook on what exactly normal and sane are, but I think we all agree that self-destructive, malicious, sadistic, etc. behaviours are not "normal" or "sane".

However, my view on it at this point is I don't have time for that bulls#!t. I'm too busy worrying about handling my (overloaded) academic schedule, working, figuring out what I'm doing with my life, expanding my computer skillsets... while still sleeping enough, exercising enough, and eating right. Throw a relationship into that, and in 99% of cases I've seen, a few to several of those priorities vanish completely.

In the workplace, nobody likes the jerk, and the jerk will eventually get fired. On the way up "The Ladder", it pays to be the nice guy, since by showing a willingness to work with others, others will be more willing to help you out, and will feel better at looking to you for guidence (which is a big factor in determining who is management material).

Everything else... it really depends. It's not the same as in the workplace, because it's more difficult to remove the jerks. They have to commit a crime, be convicted, and put in jail for them to be "removed". We won't discuss the more vigilante way to "remove" them, but you can get some ideas from AT's "I just caught some punk" thread

[narf poit chez BOOM]

Originally posted by Gryphin:

Pagans have a strong belief in "The Rule of Three". Anything, (good or bad) that you do will come back to you three fold.

"What goes around , comes around"

Pagans? Don't you mean Wiccans? Pagan applies to all non-christian religeons.

Originally posted by Atrocities:
Why do most women hate Sci-Fi? The lady I am so so dating now always resonds with alarm when she finds out I like Sci-Fi and that really PMO! (Pi**es Me Off)

Go to a lot of sci-fi movies, marry a women that comes in costume.

[ July 12, 2004, 23:06: Message edited by: narf poit chez BOOM ]

[Gryphin]

I realize your post was partly tongue in cheek cynicism and we are talking “in general”.

Posted by David E. Gervais:
Q2: Nice at work.. The nice guys at work will be mashed like ripe potatos, taken advantage of and never climb the corporate ladder. You need greed to succeed in business and without it (Being Nice) you're destined to fail. (or stay at your current level forever)

This is more a matter of definition . If you don’t want to climb the corporate ladder then you can easily be the nicest guy around and be very successful, (like I am). The important part to my success is getting into a line of work you love and keep your lifestyle fairly simple. That will generate the highest level of “Finishing First” at the end of the day.

[ July 12, 2004, 12:25: Message edited by: Gryphin ]

[General Woundwort]

Interesting that the level of cynicism is (so far, with 9 votes) much deeper re: the opposite sex, than for work and life in general. I shall have to run these results by some trusted sources in the "enemy" camp and see what they think...

[ July 12, 2004, 12:39: Message edited by: General Woundwort ]

[Gryphin]

Originally posted by General Woundwort:
Interesting that the level of cynicism is (so far, with 9 votes) much deeper re: the opposite sex, than for work and life in general. I shall have to run these results by some trusted sources in the "enemy" camp and see what they think...

I personly feel women are excited by "bad boys", but truly want "good boys" for a long term relationship. You might see younger women go for the exciting types but most of them have a realist expectations and no intention of statying with them.

If you watch "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" Spike turns her on big time but she loves Angel. Yes this is a TV example but I have seen it in real life. Women "talk" about the bad boys like they wish they could "have" them but when pushed they admit they want a "nice guy" they can trust.

[Kamog]

Why don't women like action movies? They don't seem to enjoy "combat" type movies that have stuff like kung fu fight scenes, sword battles and so on.