(OT) Some advice for me / My Depression Thread / Thanks forumers

[Taera]

thanks a lot to you friends, there is some great advice there and just cheering up

it is very interesting, my mood goes way down every evening to the point of complete amotivation but goes back up to normal. then comes evening.

Ah well, its not evening yet.

I have posted here because i know some of you are of averagely my mindset and might have been through the same things i have right now. i see i was right, and im glad. i dont usually share such information but this time i've no regrets.

just a notice, my situation is much worsened by the fact that this is a still new country to me, radically different from anywhere i lived before.
while i got the grip on the language my spoken part still remains low.

I guess i am lucky i got the right mind, i completely stopped all my fit-in attempts back in grade 5. from a source that isnt relevant i read "if you want others to like you you need to like yourself first. accept yourself as you are because its the only one you can be. only then you can change yourself". been amongst my guidelines since then.

thanks again. i've been doing some things right, some not. there is too much good advice to comment on each. thanks.

[Chauron]

Originally posted by dogscoff:
Something else I just thought of, and it might not make a difference to you but there's a chance you'll find it helpful:

One way of building social/ self confidence is through physical contact. I'm not suggesting you go round hugging everyone but certain sports and activities can do wonders for your interaction with others.

I play soccer myself and let me tell ya, theres nothing like nailing some guy out on the field and stealing the ball
Getting into Team sports like Soccer/Football/Basketball etc sorta forces you to work with other ppl... now on my team there are several idiots that I don't care to be around but there are a couple guys that I have alot of fun with and we work together rather well...

[ May 22, 2003, 00:02: Message edited by: Chauron ]

[dogscoff]

The amount of ppl who have gone through the same sort of thing is amazing. I wish I'd had you guys around 10 years ago...

just a notice, my situation is much worsened by the fact that this is a still new country to me, radically different from anywhere i lived before.

Well then I guess you need to do something that will help you understand the Canadians better. I'm not canadian, so the best I can come up with is to get into ice hockey. I'm sure someone else will come up with a better suggestion soon.

[Narrew]

Originally posted by Taera:
i've been doing some things right, some not.

That the only thing we can do friend. And I am sure that it is hard to believe, but it gets easier as time goes on, and if not easier, then you realize (with age) what is important.

My senior year I was an exchange student to Sweden (ha Rutha). So here I am, an over weight kid that is not popular in school (rual Indiana) and go to Sweden, and guess what, I am popular because I am different, I loose weight, then while the U.S. is doing something in El Salvador there are protestors in downtown Boras against the U.S., well another american and I are walking by them and they try to pass us some propaganda and we told them in Swedish that we were Americans, though we made no threating gestures, they backed off fast So...I was the same person as 6 months earlier, just in a different setting.

I think the hardest thing will be language, more of the slang. I took English in Sweden and barely passed since American English is different from British English. I went to the movie Airplane, there is a spot where they say "its going to hit the fan now" and a pile of cow poo flies through the air and hits a fan, funny to me, but not so funny to my host parents.

I dont know how to help you there, watch movies at home to get the idea of the local humor.

[Narrew]

Originally posted by dogscoff:
Well then I guess you need to do something that will help you understand the Canadians better.

How about them 2 guys that drink beer? The McKinsey Brothers or some such. Strange Brew was one of their movies I think. Is Red Green from Canada, if not, I am sure it is close enough.

Ahh, Canadian humor...got to love it

[Taera]

im trying, trying lol tho life in Israel gave me a little radical opinions on this and that lol and i often shock my social studies teacher
well i will get used to it, cuz canadians are (quote from a song) "too darn nice" lol
yea, thanks again.
as for ages - this is very funny (to me) but i only find mutual interests with people either younger or older than myself

[Narrew]

Well I think Israel has to be one of the hardest places to live. I can not imagine how people live any kind of normal life there (at least from my american point of view).

Keep a sense of humor when you come accross someone that is clueless about things you have experienced in Israel. A free country does not equal a smart population. There are many ignorant people out there, and as Fyron has pointed out, ignorant does not mean stupid, just lacks the proper information.

It is good to talk about it also, as someone else has mentioned, I too wish I had talked about things at your age.