(OT) Some advice for me / My Depression Thread / Thanks forumers

[Ruatha]

Ok, a tip from my wife the psychologist

Brainstorm what activities you can see yourself doing instead of sitting home doing nothing (well, almost nothing).
I e going to the cinema, library whatever.
Pick one of these activities that you feel is reasonable to to, then plan when you will do it.
For example, "I'm gonna see matrix reloaded, even if I'm going myself", "I'm gonna do it saturday evening" (preferabbly as soon as possible, for example tomorrow.
If you feel like it then ask someone if they want to accompany you but thats not mandatory.
What is mandatory is to do that thing when it is planned, no matter how tired/unmotivated you are.
Then when you come home you check what it was like. Was it better to go or would it have been better to stay home (Preferably you'll end up with - Better to have gone!). Then plan another activity, and so on.

The important part is to do first and feel later.
I e, "I don't feel like going to the cinema" (Crap!) -> Go to the cinema first and then feel if you felt like going after you've been there.

Post here and say how it goes, if you have to do that the chances of you doing it are bigger (or mail me if you don't wanna post public)

So you can post here (or mail);
Tomorrow, movie Matrix
and then the next day;
Went to Matrix, was fun, Tomorrow going biking with (the girl/friend).

[ May 23, 2003, 16:23: Message edited by: Ruatha ]

[Taera]

Erax: daily cycle? just as well possible. as for the girl, she isnt dating someone but she has a crush, as it seems, on that guy - some friend of a friend IIRC, from another province. complicates things doesnt it :-/ but yea she broke with her b/f some time ago

Minipol: im too inquisitive and investigative for my own good im trying to put myself into the "act" position tho.
as for amotivation, well, thats the first time in my life im suffering from it. what i mean is complete lack of wish to do anything. no, thats wrong. i _WANT_ to do something but cant get myself to.

Oleg: i dont get along too well with russians as it stands. israeli/russians (i mean, those who are both) have quite a different mentality. i will be though looking into that when a chance arises.

Ruatha: interesting idea, i might start doing it. as i said previously i dont commonly talk about myself too much but maybe. as for matrix i've seen that one, with the same girl what yes, there's the financial problems on my side. i cant burden my parents ATM and im only now starting to look for a job

One thing that stops me from doing some things is that i am not a loner... neither am i a crowd person. i simply cant make myself go somewhere alone, which is a bad thing i know. what i mean tho, i dont like to go outside on my own or go to movies on my own etc.

[oleg]

Originally posted by Taera:
Oleg: i dont get along too well with russians as it stands. israeli/russians (i mean, those who are both) have quite a different mentality. i will be though looking into that when a chance arises.

Are you sure ? I have two good friends emmigrated to Israel. I feel much more in common with them than with average "christian" russian. But it may be a generation gap. In fact, I'm pretty sad by all the corruption of money lust inflicted on the generation grown later. I can see that the young russian people you can meet are sons of "new russians" (bandits who ran the country now). Of course you can feel sick just talking with them

[Taera]

yes and no, most russians here are not from 'russia' but from southern countries like Kazahstan. While its okay i dont have anything in common with them. The 'real' russians are sons of 'new russians' tho. yes.

[TerranC]

Originally posted by Taera:
Q: how to deal with amotivation/'lazyness'?

A: Drink Red Bull. No, seriously. Drink some kind of energy drink; it'll give you that itchy energy that you just wanna get rid of.

[Taera]

haha are those things are realy any good?

[narf poit chez BOOM]

and willpower helps alot. i have 'blah' days or hours sometimes, and i just tell myself 'if i do this, i'll enjoy it.' then i do whatever it is.