Yet another Clamhoarding, Castling Discussion

[littlemute]

I think there's a right way to beat kids (the way I was beaten) and many wrong ways.

When we would beg for candy at the store we were told to stop, then told to stop with a warning that we would be spanked right there in the store (add the pain to the shame), then, of course, it would actually happen if we continued.

The second way was the worst. I'd do something wrong, like steal or lie or start a forest fire or shoot at people with a bb gun, something fairly bad. Then I was scolded and told to go to my room and come down for 'punishment.' The nature of which was never revealed until the moment of impact. What this does is takes the anger out of it and gives the parent a chance to cool down before laying on hands or the switch.

The whole "go out to the woodshed and find a switch to be beaten with and if it's too small, I'll pick it" gives the parent time to relax and strike the kid without any rage or feelings, simply execution of the logical conclusion to the child's poor actions.

As the kid gets older, you will really have to do damage to have them do anything but laugh at your spankings, so I'd say past 11 or so, no beatings. So what you do is 1) take **** away from them such as telling them when their 13 that when they get their driver's license you will take it away from them for 4 months...the span of time they'll never remember, but you will! ha ha! 2)Make them stand in front of a clock for hours 3)Wake them up VERY early to spread gravel on the driveway or dig a ditch on a saturday morning and keep them working the whole day, not even mentioning that it's punishment, but they'll know.