I am getting really fed up... server problems.

[lch]

Always prepare your turns offline, never do them online. Just let the client fetch the turn file after you enter your password when you connect, then immediately disconnect and don't reconnect unless you are done preparing the turn offline. I don't really understand your "no X / an X" comment but if it has to do with you wanting to do some last-second changes to your turn, it might be that the server already hosted when you wanted to do that because you were the last one to play his turn.