Roleplaying Diplomacy

[Aloofi]

I'm playing an Empire that is Warrior/Honorable, and I have a Partnership with both the Krill Dominion and the Xiati Empire, and relations are both in "Brotherly". Now in the Last turn they both went at war with each other and both of then sent me a Demand/request to brake my partnership and declare war on the other.
I know that I can just not answer their request, but I want to play it right. The problem is that the custume race that I'm roleplaying is Warrior/Honorable that apreciate loyalty and family values over anything else and they would never tolerate that I go to war against somebody that haven't attack us, let alone going to war against a loyal ally. I would probably get a Coup D'eta if I declare war .
So, what's the honorable path to follow in this situation?
1- Declare war on both because both are declaring war on one of my allies? Of course not.
2- Downgrade the alliance to Trade and Research?
3- Cancel both alliances?
4- Cancel alliance with the one that declared war? But how can I know who started the war?
5- Request of both to cease hostilities? What if they don't listen?

Anything else that I can do?

[dogscoff]

Make angry demands at both of them to cease hostilities. One or both of them will break their treaty with you soon enough.

[Aloofi]

Originally posted by dogscoff:
Make angry demands at both of them to cease hostilities. One or both of them will break their treaty with you soon enough.

Yeah, I guess this is the right thing to do.

Is it there a way to find out who was the one that declared war?
And if so, would it be justified to declare war on the one that declared war, even though they didn't have an alliance between themselves?

[JLS]

My guess, would be the krill, Aloofi.

[Hunkpapa]

Does the tone of your response really have any effect on the AI, I realize it changes the tect of the message.

[Aloofi]

I think it makes the AI angry or something.