Not having much luck with Multiplayer

[Maxx]

I have joined several games but no one ever starts the game. I created my own game but no one ever joins it. Is there a place where you can just play some straight up multiplayer with out all the PBW or e-mail. I was recently on Kali which still hosts a multiplayer Version of moo2 and they constantly have games going. Someone Posts an I.P and everyone joins up and you have a game. Is there anything like that available for SEIV ? I see that PBW is pretty cool but usually you can get good I.P games on the weekends if there is a service somewhere.