Advice for a mod to play

[Aerosol]

Hello all,

I am a relative newbie to SEIV but am enamored by the depth and complexity as well as playability. Unfortunately I have neither the time nor the aptitude to design a mod for my own enjoyment so I was hoping to post a general description of what type of game Id like and see if any of you more experienced types might be able to point me in the direction of a corresponding mod.

I am wanting a game where diplomacy between major empires is emphasized and war is a very serious thing and not the default condition throughout most of the game. Preferably a big map, and the more "realistic" colony population growth with the offsetting increase in homeworld productivity.

Any suggestions would be appreciated tremendously, sorry to bug you guys.