On the cusp...

[Daynarr]

Unwise said:
It was met by hostility because although it theoretically offered some constructive criticism (I too would love to see something like the GalCiv "Epic Generator" to post turn results on a web site), his overall tone was that of a spoiled brat who demands that the game conform to his needs or else he will (*gasp*) Take His Business Elsewhere.

If looked at point-by-point, none of the requests is unreasonable, nor is his tone massively objectionable if looked at dispassionately. But to people who surf this forum because (a) they love the game, (b) they respect a two-man company that can create something with such depth as a part-time hobby, and (c) already have a great deal of time invested in the product, the tone rankles.

It's like you just bought a new 2006 Mustang Convertible, and you absolutely adore it. Then some stranger comes up to you on the street and says "I was going to get one of those, but the chassis is the same as the 2000, the interior is cheap-looking and the manual shift is tough to get used to. Until Ford fixes these problems, I'm not buying one."

None of the points are false, but by making them, the stranger implies (whether by design or not) that you have made a grave error by buying the product. Moreover, you get the impression that he is boasting that he is far more intelligent than you are because he can see the faults for the deal-breakers that they are while you are blind to them due to some (possibly genetic) defect.

I think I agree with everything Unwise said here. However, it only points to reason for such reactions but none of this is actually excuse for it. First of, think about it; by responding like some of you guys have you actually have given wrong impression of this forum, people who play this game and game itself. We are not a bunch of angry adolescents who snap on anything we don't like. This forum is not like that. Even if original poster came out a bit blunt with his post, take a deep breath, calm down and then kindly point to posters mistake. Just by doing that you will show him that this game has great community and great community is a result of great game. By doing what you did, you did exactly the opposite.

Need I mention that there are lots of people who visit these forums but don't post here? Many potentional customers and fellow gamers who could add greatly to this community? Many of them may change their minds and leave when they see posts like you can see here.

A little self control and kind words can go a long way. Let’s keep forums civil and friendly place.