OT POLL: Do Nice Guys Finish Last??

Renegade 13 · #1 July 12th, 2004, 06:27 PM

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Originally posted by Gryphin:
I personly feel women are excited by "bad boys", but truly want "good boys" for a long term relationship. You might see younger women go for the exciting types but most of them have a realist expectations and no intention of statying with them.

I would agree with you here once again, and this gives me hope. Just kinda sucks sometimes

Renegade 13 · #2 July 12th, 2004, 06:31 PM

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Originally posted by Slynky:
I'm with Gryphin on this one.

When I was growing up, I saw lots of girls I found attractive and interesting who seemed only to have eyes for guys that treated them like dirt (or substitute another 4-letter word). I never understood it especially when they could have been with ME

Exactly. This is why I'm so cynical about being the "nice guy". When it comes to love, it gets you nowhere. It seems we have plenty of nice guys here, but no women to tell us what they think!!

Raging Deadstar · #3 July 12th, 2004, 06:33 PM

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Originally posted by Renegade 13:

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Originally posted by Gryphin:
I realize your post was partly tongue in cheek cynicism and we are talking �in general�.

Haha you got me Gryphin. Total cynicism. Being the nice guy really doesn't work for me at all. Then again, I'm only 17 years old . So my experience is kind of limited. But I can't help being the "nice guy". Its who I am, and I won't change who I am.

Don't worry about it

I'm 17 and i seem way too occupied with helping people out than i should be. In most peoples opinion I'd admit I probably full under "Doormat Nice"

But as everyone's said eventually you get rewarded.

Of course if you don't you can start being rather evil and scheming in your spare time and No-one will suspect you

Ragnarok · #4 July 12th, 2004, 07:06 PM

I'm a nice guy and I have never had any problems succeeding in life, so far. Granted being 19 and young compared to alot of the members here does not say much for me but my boss knows he can trust me and rely on me to accomplish a task without taking a dirty route to get it done.

In SEIV I will play both nice and mean guy depending on the game, can never become too bland and predictable so you have to spice it up sometimes.

Women...ugh...they are so confusing sometimes...

dmm · #5 July 12th, 2004, 07:57 PM

[edit: not directed at anyone in particular!]
If you're a nice guy, why do you want to date a woman who is attracted to jerks? Maybe just because she's HOT? Maybe you're not so nice after all, huh? Just not successful at playing the jerk role, so you try playing the nice role?
My advice to you genuinely nice young guys is:
1) Don't bother dating in high school. It's a waste of your time and money. You're too immature for a relationship worth having (and even if you are not, the girls are).
2) Bide your time. Nice guys usually get even more than they deserve. Jerks eventually get their come-uppance (and we often get to watch).
3) The grass is NOT greener over the fence. Learn to be content. Unattached guys should take the opportunity to do stuff that attached guys can't do easily, like move around, work your head off, take risks, switch careers, etc.

[ July 12, 2004, 18:59: Message edited by: dmm ]

Atrocities · #6 July 12th, 2004, 08:00 PM

Women love to be treated like dirt by guys who have no value system. I see it every day and have seen my entire life.

In a recent poll women said that they are drawn to a man for his humor...... yaaa riiiiiiiighhht.

In every situation that I can even begin to point to, the women fell for the nut job they are with because he had a bad boy image.

I can sight example after example on this. Women love to be treated poorly by beef cake loosers.

If given a choice between one of us, and a beef cake looser, the beef cake will always win even though we all know how well we would treat her.

Women are drawn to brawn more than brain... They are animals after all, and can sense our kindness thus our weakness.

No kidding, I go video tape a wedding and now I am involved with a women that wants far more than I am able to give, given my present RL situation, and this scares me because this does not follow the norm. HOWEVER, now that I have gone to many parties and other with her, other women, the kind that would have nothing to do with me otherwise, are begining to show me a lot of interest. WTF is up with that?

I simply do not understand women. Or is it that I do understand women, I just don't comprehend there many facitted and unique ways of doing things?

Needless to say I am running scared at the moment not knowing what in the hell to do. On one hand I like having someone like her to talk to, on the other, I am alarmed at why she is so interested in me knowning my RL situation. *Perhaps she is over desprate and I am the first thing to enter her possible husband radar in years. That alone should be making me run and duck for cover yet I still call her....... I am so confused... Women have a tendacy to do that to us.

Long story short, I played a nice guy to get the job done, and she must have thought I was honestly a nice guy or something. Given her taste in men, I would chalk her up to the desprate, "must take any man I can get" kind. That means this whole thin will end poorly for me.

Nice guys do finish Last and so it has been written. The 11th command from God himself, you know the five laws on the third tablet that was accidently dropped. 11. Man shall know that nice guys shall always finish Last in everything. 12. What can go wrong, Shall go wrong. 13. Thow shall not trust no man or no women. 14. Thow shall always get promises and agreements in writting. 15. Thot shall always pack heat.

Raging Deadstar · #7 July 12th, 2004, 08:08 PM

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Originally posted by dmm:
[edit: not directed at anyone in particular!]
If you're a nice guy, why do you want to date a woman who is attracted to jerks? Maybe just because she's HOT? Maybe you're not so nice after all, huh? Just not successful at playing the jerk role, so you try playing the nice role?
My advice to you genuinely nice young guys is:
1) Don't bother dating in high school. It's a waste of your time and money. You're too immature for a relationship worth having (and even if you are not, the girls are).
2) Bide your time. Nice guys usually get even more than they deserve. Jerks eventually get their come-uppance (and we often get to watch).
3) The grass is NOT greener over the fence. Learn to be content. Unattached guys should take the opportunity to do stuff that attached guys can't do easily, like move around, work your head off, take risks, switch careers, etc.

Hear Hear!!! Much Agreeing on my part!