OT POLL: Do Nice Guys Finish Last??

[tesco samoa]

youth is wasted on the young...

Alarifk you get to an age when you realise that all women are nice looking to someone.

You just have to figure out what ones you are attracted to.

I have always been atracted to women who have the same love of music that I have. And not the same type of music. I like hearing new music.

Then I take it from there... It did not work out the first few times ( well quite a few ) and then it did

P.S. don't get too down on meeting people , being with a few , being rejected by a few, having ones heart broken by a few, breaking a few hearts.

Better to learn what you like and what people like in you as you grow up and learn from your mistakes , and accomplisments. You will find out along the way that you will have some good memories and some bad ones. But you will have gained experence. And lived and met a whole wack of people along the way. Which makes it worth it in my opinion.

So enjoy.

[Raging Deadstar]

Originally posted by tesco samoa:
But you will have gained experence. And lived and met a whole wack of people along the way. Which makes it worth it in my opinion.

So enjoy.

This reminds me. Good Judgement only comes from Expirience and Expirience only comes from Bad Judgement

[Atrocities]

Why do most women hate Sci-Fi? The lady I am so so dating now always resonds with alarm when she finds out I like Sci-Fi and that really PMO! (Pi**es Me Off)

All because she had some jerk arse boy friend who like Sci-Fi and treated her poorly does not give her the right to think I am a jerk arse because I like Sci-Fi. I mean what the hell! "If you love me you will never play that stupid game or talk to those werdo's on line again." - Ex-girlfriend comment.

Every single women I have ever dated from HS on up has hated Sci-Fi with a passion. Could it be that women who hate men who like Sci-Fi possess a sixth sense that tells them that we have the love sci-fi gene or something?

IS loving Sci-Fi a weakness? I think they feel it is. WTF is up with that. 8 of the top ten all time grossing movies are sci-fi based. So obviously there are a lot more closet sci-fi fans than we know. But honestly people look down on people who like sci-fi. Hell I am THE ONLY person in my entire family that likes sci-fi and the rest of them look at me as if I am weird. WTF is up with that? Hell my own mother read my story (Once Upon The Stars) and told me that I should keep my day job...... THIS REALLY F***ING SUCKS!

So ya, women do NOT like Sci-Fi for the most part. Although there are many who do, the norm is that 80% or so do not.

[Gryphin]

Originally posted by Renegade 13:

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Originally posted by Gryphin:
I realize your post was partly tongue in cheek cynicism and we are talking “in general”.

Haha you got me Gryphin. Total cynicism. Being the nice guy really doesn't work for me at all. Then again, I'm only 17 years old . So my experience is kind of limited. But I can't help being the "nice guy". Its who I am, and I won't change who I am.

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Truth is it does work for you. Think about it. You go home at night and feel good about yourself. You know you did not personaly contribute to making the world a worse place to live.

And think a little more. I knew somehow you were a nice guy and look where that got you. Keep in mind that I have a strong strong aVersion to teenagers, for me to somehow feel / know about you....

Pagans have a strong belief in "The Rule of Three". Anything, (good or bad) that you do will come back to you three fold.

"What goes around , comes around"

[Gryphin]

Pooh Star loves Sci Fi. It was one of the things listed in her profile at the Online dating service we met through.

X wife liked it also

[Slynky]

Originally posted by Gryphin:
Pooh Star loves Sci Fi. It was one of the things listed in her profile at the Online dating service we met through.

X wife liked it also

Funny...

Wife and I watched the 3 "Terminators" 3 weekends ago in a small Saturday marathon. Then Last weekend, we did the 4 "Alien" movies on Sat and Sun. Watched "Equilibrium" (sp?) yesterday. We're both "Firefly" nuts (own that seires, too). I could go on but you get the picture.

PS: And I spend a lot of time with her watching Lifetime movies and we own about 10 Hallmark movies (not ashamed to admit).

[Will]

Some more "youthful" input

With women, I said Last. Because I've seen it so often, that just seems to be the case. alarikf is right though, IMHO... the school I go to (USC) tends to have a lot of the more well-off, "beautiful people", and I've gotten to know several after two years there. Unfailingly, all of them have had some sort of wildly unattractive neurotic behaviour or are extremely depressed. They can hold up the image of being a "normal", "sane" person for at most two minutes in anything going beyond superficial conversation. I know most people here also have a slightly sarcastic outlook on what exactly normal and sane are, but I think we all agree that self-destructive, malicious, sadistic, etc. behaviours are not "normal" or "sane".

However, my view on it at this point is I don't have time for that bulls#!t. I'm too busy worrying about handling my (overloaded) academic schedule, working, figuring out what I'm doing with my life, expanding my computer skillsets... while still sleeping enough, exercising enough, and eating right. Throw a relationship into that, and in 99% of cases I've seen, a few to several of those priorities vanish completely.

In the workplace, nobody likes the jerk, and the jerk will eventually get fired. On the way up "The Ladder", it pays to be the nice guy, since by showing a willingness to work with others, others will be more willing to help you out, and will feel better at looking to you for guidence (which is a big factor in determining who is management material).

Everything else... it really depends. It's not the same as in the workplace, because it's more difficult to remove the jerks. They have to commit a crime, be convicted, and put in jail for them to be "removed". We won't discuss the more vigilante way to "remove" them, but you can get some ideas from AT's "I just caught some punk" thread