OT POLL: Do Nice Guys Finish Last??

Gandalf Parker · #1 July 13th, 2004, 05:29 PM

Sorry for jumping in late and probably off course....

Nice guys do finish Last. But the thing to notice is that they FINISH. Its the nice-guy strategy that gets you the Lasting relationship, home, family.

The high school "winners" are considered winners because they are playing the scoreboard for points. After highschool they either have to wise up and completely change their tactics, or die alone. When their goals shift from 1-nighters to relationships, then their targets probably will also.

Personally I have always preferred rubenesque women (same curves as everyone else likes but alittle farther apart). I guess its the empath in me. Id rather have one where I get points because I can truthfully tell her that her self-doubts mean nothing to me. Id rather one that needs help in the confidence department than one that needs NO help in the confidence department. Ive had so many bad experiences with the model-chicks that I actually turn them down if there is a heavier chick around. That probably sounds bad but its just truthfulness of my own faults.

[ July 13, 2004, 16:32: Message edited by: Gandalf Parker ]

Caduceus · #2 July 13th, 2004, 11:00 PM

As a nice guy who took a while to achieve what he wanted to do, I can say it was worth the wait.

Being true to yourself if more important than just about anything else.

If you can't stand to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning for what you did or said yesterday, you're doing something wrong.

Wildcard

narf poit chez BOOM · #3 July 14th, 2004, 12:54 AM

See, that's why vampires are all evil. They can't look at themselves in the mirror anyway.

Renegade 13 · #4 July 16th, 2004, 05:55 AM

Nice guys finish Last, dead Last, i guarantee it. Be nice, and you will end up Last, experience has told me. Niceness screws you over in the end, beginning and middle.

mac5732 · #5 July 16th, 2004, 06:00 AM

Nice guys, eventually win out in the end, you just have to wait and give it time.. Remember, never try to be something or someone your not. That is the worst thing one can do and you will regret it in the long run. Always be yourself, and if someone doesn't like it, tough, sooner or later, someone will come along, usually when you least expect it, and like you for yourself.

Example. I met my wife, when I pulled her over one night with her girl friend. towed the car, pulled them down to the station, called friend father to come and get them.... she was nasty, snotty, obnoxcious, smart mouthed, etc. Month later saw her at local bar, began talking with her, and to make long story short, married her 3 yrs later....

so always look on the bright side, what was meant to be will be and nothing you can do will change it. Just be yourself, have faith in yourself, and rmember, its her loss, not yours. Its all a part of life's trials and you will experience more in your life. Don't let something like this get you down, look on the bright side, you woke up this morning, and any day that happens, is a good day no matter what else takes place... besides you have many friends here, and most if not all of us have at one time or the other gone thru the same thing, some easier others harder...

you take care

[ July 16, 2004, 05:03: Message edited by: mac5732 ]

Loser · #6 July 16th, 2004, 06:19 AM

There is, unfortunately, a tendancy for weakness to be mistaken for nice . . . nice . . .ness, nicety? Whatever.

One must be strong, learn to be strong, before one can actually be nice.

I could be wrong about that, but that's what I've learned in my own life.

Atrocities · #7 July 16th, 2004, 06:56 AM

renegade 13, Nice guys are meant to finish Last because we are the ones who are best capable of handling it. We take the pain, and we move onto the next lesson in life.

Quote:

You can look at the menu, but you just can't eat
You can feel the cushion, but you can't have a seat
You can dip your foot in the pool,
but you can't have a swim
You can feel the punishment, but you can't commit the sin

*And you want her, and she wants you
We want everyone
And you want her and she wants you
No one, no one, no one ever is to blame

You can build a mansion, but you just can't live in it
You're the fastest runner but you're not allowed to win
Some break the rules, and let you cut the cost
The insecurity is the thing that won't get lost

You can see the summit but you can't reach it
It's the Last piece of the puzzle but you just can't make it fit
Doctor says you're cured but you still feel the pain
Aspirations in the clouds but your hopes go down the drain

No one ever is to blame
No one ever is to blame

[ July 16, 2004, 05:57: Message edited by: Atrocities ]