MP: NewbsWithLowSelfEsteem - Year 8: A Dance with Illithids

[iRFNA]

I've asked gandalf to kill the timer for now while I decide on the next course of action. I'm stuck in a limbo that could accurately be described as between soyweiser's and finalgenesis's opinions on the matter. I really hate to sub someone out when they are still "playing", but on the other hand it is possible he's simply griefing at this point. Or maybe he isn't griefing and this has just snowballed over time with us asking him to play and him avoiding the forums more and blah blah. I honestly can't tell which it is, but I do know (from experience tehe) that a good griefer never leaves the zone of plausible deniability.

[Soyweiser]

Yeah, I'm also worried he is in the snowball category. Esp as a lot of dom3 players can be rather, serious about the game.

Play your turn! It is serious business!

[iRFNA]

Ya, that's why I'm very reluctant to just sub him out, as in a way that'd possibly be victimizing him even more. It can suck when you plan out some strat for dom over a long period of time, with visions of strategic glory, the lamentations of women, etc. dancing through your head, then things fall apart on liftoff. Throw in the pressure on someone who is fairly new, and it makes them pull away more. Which adds more pressure. Then things start to get hostile, then he disappears for good.

Torgon, just play, it's fine!

[bbz]

check if he played his turn in the other game. If he has and has read your message then sub him out if he hadn't replied

[Samhain]

Originally Posted by iRFNA

I'm stuck in a limbo that could accurately be described as between soyweiser's and finalgenesis's opinions on the matter.

Share the burden of the decision by going democratic; put it up to a vote. My vote is to find a sub and get on with the game. If Torgon wants to clear his name, he can do so in another game.

[bbz]

+ 1

[iRFNA]

Sounds good, vote away. The Crippled God just arrived, so I can wait a bit.

[Soyweiser]

Originally Posted by iRFNA

Sounds good, vote away. The Crippled God just arrived, so I can wait a bit.

The Crippled what? Is this some sort of slang for your period?

[NaivePhilosopher]

Originally Posted by Soyweiser

The Crippled what? Is this some sort of slang for your period?

That one was a bit of a stretch

My vote is to wait. I get the feeling that's a bit unpopular, I know, but I don't want to turn a newbie game into a mob to chase out a potentially put-upon newb as well. In any case, if he doesn't have the courtesy to respond to PMs or ingame message or something in the near future, though, that's another thing entirely.

[Admiral_Aorta]

I'm inclined to wait, even though I'd like to get on with the game. Torgon, if you're reading this, then post here! Do something!