Oh, I see, you haven't gotten their pretenders yet. What I normally do is the following:
1) ask everybody to send me their pretender files for the game
2) put all their pretender into my newlords folder
3) create a local game with their pretenders
4) transfer the game to the network server
This is because of the following:
1) I get their email addresses. I can contact them in case I need to.
2) I can check if everything is okay, if everybody set a password and so on. Nobody unwittingly overwrites another player's pretender or takes a nation he didn't sign up for.
3) Clicking the options together is easier than steering the command line.
So, what I'd ask of you to do is parts 1) to 3) and then send me what you got.