(OT) Some advice for me / My Depression Thread / Thanks forumers

[Wardad]

Originally posted by Taera:
no reason for party yet

ANNOUNCING the NO REASON TO PARTY party!!!

[Taera]

ruatha, lol, you're hitting the point, im trying to make myself do stuff. with little success but i have some plans im going to do. and i _am_ going to do it. i've been into "yes ill do it... no i wont" too long, about time i stepped over it.
(dont have a bicycle )

and those two people, well, of all people i know in israel they're the only ones who dont have internet at all.

[tbontob]

Do they have access to the net?

Like do they have a friend who would be willing to allow them the use of their computer?

If so, you could chat with them if you can arrange a mutually agreeable time beforehand.

Also the telephone is pretty cheap nowadays if you get on one of the plans. But if there are financial considerations, the net may be the better choice.

[Taera]

theoretically it is possible to get them Online... we have mutual friends who have internet. and also the phone, yes. but... i dont know. for some reason i dont... well, dont know. personally id prefer a face-to-face talk. it.... somehow feels wrong to call someone simply to complain about my troubles.

[narf poit chez BOOM]

call them. there's nothing wrong with it, your not calling collect.

[tbontob]

Originally posted by Taera:
theoretically it is possible to get them Online... we have mutual friends who have internet. and also the phone, yes. but... i dont know. for some reason i dont... well, dont know. personally id prefer a face-to-face talk. it.... somehow feels wrong to call someone simply to complain about my troubles.

Taera, it is the rare individual who goes through life without a crisis of some sort. Some of us have many crisises.

When I had my first one I felt the same way and I have regreted it.

My friends were very supportive but being somewhat independant, I felt I was a burden to them. Later, I learned I wasn't and they wished that I hadn't withdrawn.

A real friend will be there for a friend. Only he knows when it becomes a burden for him. So, if it does happen, let him be the one to tell you that it has become too much for him to handle.

If you are still troubled about this, then be upfront about it. Tell him/her that you fear you may become a burden and when that happens you want to be told. Let them decide on whether it has become a burden for them.

Most people feel good when someone approaches them for an ear.

The major exception may be if they are stressed out themselves about something. Two things can happen then. They tell you it is a bad time and they have little resources available to explore your situation. Or you both really connect and share your difficulties with each other.

[Taera]

there are a couple things pausing me there.

first, as i've put it elsewhere, ive never spilled my troubles before anyone. as a matter of fact ive all too often had been on the receiving end. as such i dont usually feel comfortable telling people my deeper secrets & thoughts. as i said, this topic is a very rare exception because when i posted it i was in a very, very deep depression every evening, and it, well, was driving me crazy .

second... well, that might sound silly, but i like my privacy if i call them my talk _will_ get emotional and.. well, there are my parents (to answer the unasked question, i dont give them all my heart secrets). If i get them to talk from someone's ICQ it will ultimately be seen by someone else and, well, i dont feel comfortable when my talk is being watched (very silly but true).

i... dont know. i might follow the suggestion and talk to them. soon.
and yes, i know i myself am complicating the issue