Advise

[Wardad]

The biggest consideration on the ladder is POWER, not money. In our commercial society money=power.
POWER can take many forms: strength, stamina, status, influence, family, land, money, and even politics.

As a young girl grows into an adult, the PERCEPTION of which form of power is important can change.

Raising succesfull children is not cheap (time, labor, money). Unsuccessfull and unhealthy children are even more costly. So it makes sense to be attracted to healthy bucks and later prefer providers.

Just my Cynical 2 cents on women.

An equally cynical view of males.

Males just have one ladder....so whats the strategy....
Their genes are best spread by planting them in many hosts. They only contribute 1/2 the DNA but not the microchandria... (something or other).

Child raising limits a mans ability to spread his genes. He must find women who can raise a child alone or one who can get another man to help. So a womans attractiveness to males becomes important. Remember that health and youth are important parts of attractiveness.

The healthier the woman the more likely the child will be sucessfull (healthy). The healthy and younger woman should be able to provide more child raising labor. The healthy, younger, and attractive woman is more likely to find a provider male to help with the childs success.

[ November 25, 2002, 20:03: Message edited by: Wardad ]

[Erax]

Wardad: You're not being cynical, that theory of yours has a name - 'evolutionary psychology' or somesuch. It attempts to explain the differences in male and female behavior by proving that both contribute to the survival of the species. It may not be perfect, but IMO it's the best explanation for said behavior so far.

[Kamog]

All right, here's a question for you guys...

Is it acceptable for a guy to go out with a girl who is 10 years younger than him? How about 20 years younger? What is the rule, if any, on how much age difference is OK, and when does it become not OK?

Someone told me that the maximum acceptable age difference is 7 years. I pointed out that some movie stars who get married have huge age differences of 20 - 30 years plus, but then I was told that movie stars are rich so the rule doesn't apply to them. What do you think?

[mlmbd]

Kamog, I personally don't think if you are and "adult", you should be dating minors. But hey, that's just my opinion. For what it's worth!
As to what the acceptable age difference is. It is what you can stand. It is after all, you and the other party involved. It really makes no difference what everyone else thinks. So, what you can stand, in terms of "stairs", "rude comments" and sometimes just being "ostracized". What your physique can stand.

mlmbd

[CombatSquirrel]

Well, hmmm...

Let's make some assumptions:

Legally, the age of majority in the States is 18. After 18 years of age, the government cannot make or enforce any laws, regulations, or involve themselves in any way with the decision for a man a woman to become involved.

By the time someone is 25, as a rule they are living independently. Not having anyone paying for their education, covering them for insurance, having any financial control over the choices that they make, and they are pretty much stuck with both the great and rotten choices that they make from that point on for the rest of their lives.

So, from 18 until you are actually carving your own way under your own steam, be considerate of the other people who are carrying you on their backs. After that, it doesn't matter, as long as both of them are of sound mind. Their own choices and their own consequences.

Man 26, Women 25 - ok
Women 35, Man 25 - ok
Man 50, Women 25 - ok, lucky dog
Women 85, Man 25 - creepy, but ok

CombatSquirrel

[Wardad]

Originally posted by Kamog:
Oh, I see, once you've got one girlfriend, it's easy to get more? Well, according to the Ladder Theory, ...

According to the ladder theory, a man will screw the lowest woman on his ladder if he is drunk and has nothing better to do. After being used this way, or after being warned by friends, she may wise up. The woman may want to feel she is higher on your ladder than other women.
She needs to see other women on your ladder before she feel assured her rung is good one.

[Erax]

[quote]Originally posted by Wardad:

The woman may want to feel she is higher on your ladder than other women.
She needs to see other women on your ladder before she feel assured her rung is good one.

I see it another way... she wants to know if you're on some other woman's 'good' ladder. If you are, then you must have some positive qualities.