OT POLL: Do Nice Guys Finish Last??

[Will]

Tesco,

Unfortunately, my hair hasn't been of the blue, red, green, purple, or orange variety for almost two years. I'm considering purple once the whole corporate internship thing ends (it's a software company, but there still are *some* limits to the corporate culture). Should be fun.

And if this {link} is the Pumpkin you are referring to... I would probably like it, even if the reviews on imdb are lukewarm.

Renegade,

We all have different things that are important to us. It's good that you realize that relationships are a trade-off, and I think even better that you choose to pursue them anyway. And great that they apparently are chasing after you

I guess my view is skewed from the fact that I haven't had any 'significant' relationships. In high school I was far too socially inept (read: geek, nerd, dweeb, etc), end of high school and college I focused more on friendships than anything with 'benefits'. And I guess it doesn't help that in SoCal, I would be considered below average... but like I said, doesn't matter, I have (I think) more important things to focus on. My dad seems to agree on the waiting part too (he married my mom when he was 20, she 18). Freedom to move around and discover a bit, instead of being anchored to one place/person.

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I was going to say something else, but I forgot.

[Atrocities]

That BullS**t will eventually catch up to you whether you want it to or not.

The thing is, if nice guys know that they are going to finish Last, then they can play the game under a differnt set of rules. Finding the rules that work best for you will be the challenge.

[Will]

Good point AT. And when it does catch up to me, I'm probably not gonna do much to resist (like Renegade, I'm not one to flat out reject).

But in the mean time, I don't spend time worrying about it. Hell, friends do it enough for me, since apparently it's not normal to be single .

[narf poit chez BOOM]

As far as I can tell, you just go with girl or guy (I mean, their are one or two girls reading this) #2. In every story, it's allways the second one the're really in love with.

[Paul1980au]

Wow this post quickly took off didnt it.

[Slynky]

Originally posted by Paul1980au:
Wow this post quickly took off didnt it.

Well , it had the magic four-letter word in it: girl.

[Raging Deadstar]

[quote]Originally posted by Gryphin:

I'm not sure what your sourses are. The Neo Pagans I have met would nod, understand why you think that, and try to explain that *in general* Paganism is an earth based spiritualty and that Pagans follow the The wheel of the year, the cycle of life and the seasons and that each group has thier own interpretations and beliefs.
They would dissagree with such a sweeping generalazation.
But I am sure that different areas have different deffintions of Pagan. I love variety

In the english dictionary the definition of the word Pagan is someone who doesn't worship christianity or at least a polytheistic Religion. I think thats where Narf was coming from.

Don't mind the english language...We Brits have been stuck on our own Island for far too Long It's why so many dislike the EU. It's not a "I don't agree politically wise" reason, it's "The Europeans are Invading Again!!!" Reason...It's in our blood after being invaded so many times before

[Gandalf Parker]

Sorry for jumping in late and probably off course....

Nice guys do finish Last. But the thing to notice is that they FINISH. Its the nice-guy strategy that gets you the Lasting relationship, home, family.

The high school "winners" are considered winners because they are playing the scoreboard for points. After highschool they either have to wise up and completely change their tactics, or die alone. When their goals shift from 1-nighters to relationships, then their targets probably will also.

Personally I have always preferred rubenesque women (same curves as everyone else likes but alittle farther apart). I guess its the empath in me. Id rather have one where I get points because I can truthfully tell her that her self-doubts mean nothing to me. Id rather one that needs help in the confidence department than one that needs NO help in the confidence department. Ive had so many bad experiences with the model-chicks that I actually turn them down if there is a heavier chick around. That probably sounds bad but its just truthfulness of my own faults.

[ July 13, 2004, 16:32: Message edited by: Gandalf Parker ]

[Caduceus]

As a nice guy who took a while to achieve what he wanted to do, I can say it was worth the wait.


Being true to yourself if more important than just about anything else.

If you can't stand to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning for what you did or said yesterday, you're doing something wrong.

Wildcard

[narf poit chez BOOM]

See, that's why vampires are all evil. They can't look at themselves in the mirror anyway.