OT POLL: Do Nice Guys Finish Last??

[tesco samoa]

Will that is it... an upside is that Christina Ricci is in it... and as always looking good.

Alarikf... The hehehe

[Renegade 13]

Nice guys finish Last, dead Last, i guarantee it. Be nice, and you will end up Last, experience has told me. Niceness screws you over in the end, beginning and middle.

[mac5732]

Nice guys, eventually win out in the end, you just have to wait and give it time.. Remember, never try to be something or someone your not. That is the worst thing one can do and you will regret it in the long run. Always be yourself, and if someone doesn't like it, tough, sooner or later, someone will come along, usually when you least expect it, and like you for yourself.

Example. I met my wife, when I pulled her over one night with her girl friend. towed the car, pulled them down to the station, called friend father to come and get them.... she was nasty, snotty, obnoxcious, smart mouthed, etc. Month later saw her at local bar, began talking with her, and to make long story short, married her 3 yrs later....

so always look on the bright side, what was meant to be will be and nothing you can do will change it. Just be yourself, have faith in yourself, and rmember, its her loss, not yours. Its all a part of life's trials and you will experience more in your life. Don't let something like this get you down, look on the bright side, you woke up this morning, and any day that happens, is a good day no matter what else takes place... besides you have many friends here, and most if not all of us have at one time or the other gone thru the same thing, some easier others harder...

you take care

[ July 16, 2004, 05:03: Message edited by: mac5732 ]

[Loser]

There is, unfortunately, a tendancy for weakness to be mistaken for nice . . . nice . . .ness, nicety? Whatever.

One must be strong, learn to be strong, before one can actually be nice.

I could be wrong about that, but that's what I've learned in my own life.

[Atrocities]

renegade 13, Nice guys are meant to finish Last because we are the ones who are best capable of handling it. We take the pain, and we move onto the next lesson in life.

You can look at the menu, but you just can't eat
You can feel the cushion, but you can't have a seat
You can dip your foot in the pool,
but you can't have a swim
You can feel the punishment, but you can't commit the sin

*And you want her, and she wants you
We want everyone
And you want her and she wants you
No one, no one, no one ever is to blame

You can build a mansion, but you just can't live in it
You're the fastest runner but you're not allowed to win
Some break the rules, and let you cut the cost
The insecurity is the thing that won't get lost

You can see the summit but you can't reach it
It's the Last piece of the puzzle but you just can't make it fit
Doctor says you're cured but you still feel the pain
Aspirations in the clouds but your hopes go down the drain

No one ever is to blame
No one ever is to blame

[ July 16, 2004, 05:57: Message edited by: Atrocities ]

[Renegade 13]

Thank you all for the advice and words of encouragement. It means a lot to me. Its kind of ironic though...I have more friends here than I do anywhere else! I suppose all we can do is live life day to day, and take what gets thrown at us.

[Slynky]

Without trying to sound like the "typical" adult "know it all", I might add in here that, with youth, there is a certain amount of impatience with life. Well, it seems to me from the people I know in the age group of 16-22. I'm not sure if the world is in a deeper state of gloom these days and some feel they need to have everything quicker before it all ends or what.

I'm not so old that I don't remember the pain of having feelings for someone and to have them ignored. I remember sitting on a riverbank in the hills of North Carolina with a rifle in my hand at age 19. So, I think I can empathize a bit.

And though it sounds really lame, your life will change, you will mature more (I still gain maturity even at my age, so don't take it as an insult ), and you WILL see that nice guys do NOT finish Last. Just remember, those girls have to mature also .

[Will]

Originally posted by Slynky:
And though it sounds really lame, your life will change, you will mature more (I still gain maturity even at my age, so don't take it as an insult ), and you WILL see that nice guys do NOT finish Last. Just remember, those girls have to mature also .

So true... I think people gain maturity throughout their lives; it's just some gain far more slowly than others (e.g. that 40-year-old that never seemed to mature past 14). I think there's also a tendency for those in the 70+ years range to relapse into the maturity of someone in the 8-15 years range once in a while.

And also true that the girls have to mature... which can suck if your growth is a bit more fast paced.

Just hang in there. University is coming soon for you, right?

[geoschmo]

Nice guys don't finish Last, because in life nobody really finishes. Life just keeps on going till you are dead. And then it doesn't matter where you place cause you are dead either way.

The only thing to do is keep on living. Be true to yourself, do things that make you happy at least some of the time, be as nice as you can to those around you, and try not to worry about the scoreboard.

If you are worried about the girl that got away, she's not the Last one you'll ever find. And trust me, often they are much more trouble then they are worth. Sometimes losing a girl is the best thing that could ever happen to you. Find one that loves you for who you are and you will be much happier.

[ July 16, 2004, 16:42: Message edited by: geoschmo ]

[Taera]

Interesting discussion. Lemme add my own thoughts.

Nice guys do finish Last, when it comes to a relationship. But what is Last? Later than all the school "winners"? Well, its Last by their list. Do you realy care?

I've known different people. I've known the "winners"/*******s, and nice guys (am one). I've also known the "too hot for my own good" girls and the nice girls.

Winners go for the hot and instinct. Nice guys think and wait. Me, am a good example, i believe. I watched peope date in gr.8 and gr.10. I decided that I should find someone too. It was a mental struggle, because initially i of course was attracted to the "hot" girls. Well, so bad, as i discovered a total lack of any personality worth a mention.

I dont know about all, but about me, and other "nice guys" i know, nice guys are picky. We dont choose the obvious, we go for the pearls. And, believe it or not, there are girls who think the same way as you do. Physical doesnt always declare the mindset of a girl.

Sure, you dont get to date that hot girl in your english class. But do you realy want a person with whom you wont be able to hold even a 15-minutes conversation on something besides her interests?

Now, an interesting observation from a maturing mind. I am currently in a relationship, and im reflecting on my past years. I was _NOT_ ready for this before. Then its a good thing it waited, no?

Nice guys finish Last. So said the "bad" guys, by their scale. Do you care? Nice guys work their way throughouthly and get the truly marvelous results.

Okay, its late, i should go sleep. If above doesnt make sense, I blame mrs. Time.